Kurt Bruner, The Center for Strong Families
Should you adopt a child? Millions of children around the world need homes. Many people want to adopt. As you process feelings of hope and eagerness in your heart, the practical questions can often seem paralyzing:
“What’s this going to cost?”
“Which route is best—domestic, international, or foster care?”
“Is there a chance that the biological parents complicate things?”
Exploring adoption means weighing all of your practical concerns in your head against the often inexplicable tugging of your heart. With so many significant factors to consider, where do you start?
STEP ONE: Understand God’s Heart for Orphans
It’s easy to grow anxious when you explore adoption in your own limited strength and understanding. There is peace, however, in seeking to know and reflect God’s heart for adoption. You can do that by reading and meditating on verses in the Bible about adoption and care for orphans (for example, Deuteronomy 10:18, Exodus 22:22–24, James 1:27, Job 29:1–12, Esther 2:7 and 2 Samuel 9:3). As you read these Scriptures, consider setting aside time for fasting and seeking the Lord’s will for your home.
Seeking God’s heart for orphans will stretch your perspective. It will change the kind of cost/benefit analysis you bring to your decisions. It also can give you peace and patience for the details of adoption and can grow your trust in God’s ability to provide for you in what He’s calling you to.
While seeking God’s heart for orphans, you might find yourself considering entirely different approaches to adoption. You also may discover opportunities to show care for orphans in ways other than adoption.
STEP TWO: Educate Yourself
Much about adoption has changed in the past few decades. New opportunities have emerged alongside new challenges. At the same time, various churches and non-profit ministries have expanded their support for orphans and adoption, providing a broad range of information and services about things such as federal tax benefits and financial assistance through grants available to adopting families.
One of the best ways to increase your understanding of both the head and heart issues of adoption is to spend time with others who have adopted—to hear from them the joys and challenges of each step along the way. Take a look at these resources to learn from those who have walked this path before you.
- Successful Adoption: A Guide for Christian Families by Natalie Nichols Gillespie
- Adopted for Life by Russell D. Moore
- Empowered To Connect by Karyn Purvis and Michael Monroe
DVD Material available at the Prestonwood Library
- 10 Questions Adoptive Parents Ask
- What Every Adoptive Parent Should Know
- Insights & Gifts Video Series
Prestonwood has a variety of Bible Fellowships for the spiritual development of every person. No matter your age and stage of life, there’s a Bible Fellowship for you. Visit prestonwood.org/connect for more information.
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